Antagonizing, and why I hate it.

an·tag·o·nize

  [an-tag-uh-nahyz]  Show IPA verb, an·tag·o·nized, an·tag·o·niz·ing.

verb (used with object)

1.

to make hostile or unfriendly; make an enemy or antagonist of: His speech antagonized many voters.

2.

to act in opposition to; oppose.

making things right in your head by making the other person out to be the bad guy, have no morals, be superficial. But people aren't superficial.

Here is my opinion on antagonizing, who does it, what can be done about it.

Antagonizing is something I hate. I cannot honestly say that I am the exception, I don't do this, yada yada, because I do. Mostly unconsciously. Everybody does it, and that's okay, as long as you know it and try to do something about it.
As a person, you have an opinion. You have morals, principles, do's and don'ts. You make your own rules as to what's right and wrong. Of course there are the basic things like don't kill anybody, no no no to rape, those things, and people who do those things, they deserve to be antagonized at first sight. But not forever. Because suppose there is a background story. It's still murder, it's still wrong, but you start taking pity on them if all the wrong in the world has been thrown upon their shoulders. In a movie, when they follow the story of the bad guy, you still think he's the good guy, just because he's the main character of the movie.
You get to see that they have their own morals, do's and don'ts. So why, in your own life, is the one standing in your way immediately the bad guy?
For example, you would never bully someone, but the guys bullying your friend, they would. Why? they're the bad guy. You write them off as having no conscious, or even worse, being jealous. I hate this.
In movies, in real life, everybody always assumes someone does something out of jealousy.
But honestly, would you think this:
'Ohmygod, she has pretty ginger hair, let's bully her!'
No! no, you wouldn't.
So why would they? maybe your friend and her bullies got off on the wrong foot, and they think she's the mean one. It's easy to hate someone as soon as you hate them, then all actions they do suddenly become obnoxious, but when Inna does them, it's okay.

Treat people with equal judgement, allow them to make mistakes, as you do too, and you will easily become more friendly towards other people.

what's there to be jealous about anyway? If everybody was honest with at least themselves, you would know  that there isn't much to be jealous about. Normal, everyday life is the same for everybody. Everybody has things they find difficult, or things they love and make them happy. People who are easily jealous should keep in mind that just because they make the other person happy, doesn't mean they'd make YOU happy, so there's really no point in trying to steal it or their happiness away.

So if jealousy really isn't the reason why you can't get along with someone, try to find out what is. Communicate with the people you're antagonizing, try to fix the problem, and then that's just one less thing to worry about.

so there you have it, Think About That.